Dating a touring musician
If you complain about this, you're massively selfish, FYI. The key here is that even Chris Martin (who really ought to know better) allowed this "burden" to take precedence over simply getting over himself. But herein lies the crux of the matter: take away his "burden" and you've effectively stripped him of his raison d'être. Musicians are mysterious and flighty creatures lost in a poetic dreamscape. He, however, has lived the life less ordinary forever and as such cannot fathom the prospect of being enchained in the corporate routine of work/sleep/death. The self-loathing that accompanies his 'gift' is part of the fabric of his being and as such, no singular experience is lived outside its realms. Your trip to Glastonbury made him gag at the thought of meaningless escapism for average people to get off their tits and pretend they're bohemian for a week. be prepared to embrace your new life as the NOT-cool one. Even an ardent cynic will find the sight of a guy strumming away, all wild hair and tortured expression sexy as HELL. You don't get his Talking Heads circa reference but you laugh anyway and hope it slips under the radar. He can't fathom why you paid £50 to see Alt-J when he could have made a call and got you backstage. He simply cannot fathom why you'd willingly pay upwards of £300 to sit on a beach elsewhere as that would be passing up opportunities to hang out in artisan coffee shops and dinge-bars. His hand-to-mouth existence means the prospect of planning anything beyond the next three hours makes his palms sweat. I want to write a book, get my Ph D., land a publishing deal (with either Warner/Chappell, Sony/ATV, or Universal), win a Grammy, open a music studio in NYC, become a world class marketing consultant, and more.Randi Zuckerberg (sister of Facebook’s CEO, Mark Zuckerberg) says busy people, particularly entrepreneurs, can only have 3 out of these 5 work-life balance items.
If it’s going to work though, there has to be lots of trust. However, most of my band mates and musician friends basically live on a stack of pizza boxes, whisky, and Muscle Milk. We might be at a party having a great night together, and then I get a song idea and have to lock myself and my instruments (look, sometimes I do bring them with me, you never know) in the bathroom for a while because it's a very good chord progression. It's got to be kind of weird to listen to them, but you're here now and they're not. I sleep on an awesome bed in a great apartment, full of color and life, and have only vomited on my own floor once and that was years ago and I had the flu. If they are inspired to write something, whatever you're doing has to stop. On some level, you have to think that my band is the best band in the world because we are really great, but also because you're with me and you think really great. Also, why is Smash Mouth your favorite band of all the time? All those songs I played you when we first met couldn't have been about you.Sorry (but not sorry), the truth is you’ll never make it on that motivation alone.The reality is this: groupies don’t care about you when you’re on the come up, because you’re likely broke and struggling.
Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. To every non-musician reading this, you’re just an outsider looking in. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians:• Musicians/Artists get TONS of gorgeous women falling for them. Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official ‘groupie’.